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Rosemary Lodge's avatar

I love the idea of identity being fluid… that’s why learning and experiencing new things is so fun I guess… we can continuously expand who we are ❤️

Donna McArthur's avatar

Yes and I love that the kids are showing us how everything is fluid. They are leading the way! 😘

Holly Starley's avatar

Great piece, Donna! I particularly love number six!! 😊🥰

Donna McArthur's avatar

Thank you Holly. I'm with you on the realization that two things can be true at once. It seems like both an opening to emotional maturity as well as a relief to realize there is no one right path.

I appreciate your presence here❤️

Heather Barth's avatar

I appreciate the line “identity is fluid” I like that we can reinvent ourselves such a hopeful realization ❤️

Donna McArthur's avatar

It is hopeful, isn't it Heath? I get inspired by reading about folks in their 70's and 80's doing stuff I wouldn't have thought possible - talk about a fluid identity and not buying into a story!

Michael Edward's avatar

The tricky thing is that we are tangled in our own interpretation because it’s like a safety net so it becomes hard to tell what’s truly us and what’s the story we believe about ourselves.

— that bit really struck a chord with me. Untangling ourselves from our story is so difficult and yet also so liberating.

And I love love love that you offered up some things that can let us know we’re on the right path. 6 and 8 really stood out for me.

Thanks Donna :)

Donna McArthur's avatar

Please don't let this very late response to your comment indicate my lack of caring that you took the time to leave a comment Michael! I have been offline for over a week so only saw it now. Heartfelt thanks for being here, it means a lot.

Writing and reading in point form is lazy. I get that! But sometimes it's like candy for our brain (or at least my brain🤣) and the concepts seem to sink in a little more because they don't require a deep read. I'm glad a couple of them stood out for you.

Michael Edward's avatar

You never have to apologise for taking your time to respond, Donna! Hell, you don’t have to respond at all and I’ll still love ya :)

And yes, I hear, sometimes I feel like writing dots points is cheating haha, and other times I actually really like them :)

Kristi Keller 🇨🇦's avatar

Something about your very last sentence feels aligned to me:

"...soften our edges enough that the light shines in the cracks of our foundation."

I feel like I'm in that stage now. It's a long but necessary one.

Donna McArthur's avatar

I'm glad you liked that line, I did too. Sometimes it helps to know that we don't have to DO anything - no steps toward that damn self-improvement - we simply have to give life a teensy bit of space so our own self can show up. (and here's me with the good grammar)

Kristi Keller 🇨🇦's avatar

LOL I love “good” grammar 😁