Donna I wish I’d found your experienced and thoughtful counsel many years ago. I’ve backed into many of the mindset “reworks” and changes in my life by sheer necessity based on pain, as I know you’ve read a little of in my newsletter. The “I am what I am” mindset is devastating for people. It is one of the key things about AA that I push back against. We are told we are alcoholic for life...we just are and always will be. For me, I’ve found in recovery that changing my mindset allows me to be open-hearted and open-minded about living in a different way. By examining my core relationship to people, places, and things, I can be changed and recovered. Thank you for allowing those of us who couldn’t attend your initial talk to listen in later. You are a wealth of positive energy and I am so grateful to know you. 🙏❤️
From the bottom of my heart, Dee thank you for those kind words!
I am not a part of the AA community, although I hold it in the highest esteem. I can see how the 'lifetime sentence' mindset of alcoholism could be a deterrent for some folks. I've never considered the "I am what I am" mindset in any context so I appreciate you bringing that to my attention because I believe it to be a pretty damaging sentiment. We are all capable of change which is why it seems to be my life mission to be a carrier of hope that it's possible!
As always thank you for taking the time to tune in and share in the comments. I love to hear from you.
Thank you Donna for this informative talk. I like that you use personal examples for us to relate to. I hope we aren’t your irritating Neighbors. Lol. ♥️♥️♥️
Oh Jeannine I thought of you guys as soon as I said that! I wasn’t referring to myself because I have NO irritating neighbours, especially you two💕 We live in the best neighbourhood ever.
Thank you for talking the time to comment about the presentation, I’m so glad you found it helpful.
I completely understand the challenges that may seem over our heads at times. It's a journey filled with continuous learning and growth. Your presentation, however, shows that you're not only navigating these waters well but also making them easier for others.
Winston thank you so much for this. Some days I feel like I'm dog-paddling in the waters rather than navigating them. On those days I try to invoke self-compassion and allowing. I can't say I always pull it off but I am happy I now have the awareness to do it.
I appreciate you taking the to tune in and then comment, it means a lot to me.
There was so much useful info in there, but what I liked most of all was that you grounded it in your own experience of getting sober from alcohol.
I think that is such a good thing to have done as it not only shows that your methods work, but it also helps us relate you to in that we all have things we have struggled to overcome.
I love the point you made about how we can shift our mindset through things we do with our bodies - as this is such a wonderful way to reinforce how mind and body are intrinsically connected. And it also gives us concrete ways to approach changing our mindset.
I am a big fan of Andrew Huberman and so for a while now I’ve been doing the physiological sigh and having cold showers and I’ve been amazed by the difference it can have.
I also really liked the bit about how we are in control of the words we use (those little spells) and the content we consume.
That is such an important point that I think is easy to forget.
And — “Do not underestimate the consequences of doing nothing” — I love it! I wrote that down and put it on my wall. Such a powerful final point.
I'm so glad you found it helpful Michael! Thank you for taking the time to leave such a detailed comment, perhaps it will inspire other folks to take a listen❤
Donna! This was SO good! I attended the live one and found myself taking copious notes. I learned a ton and your delivery was really wonderful. I felt like I was learning from an old friend. ♥️ Thank you so much for making this free and available to everyone! And talk about synchronicity...the theme for my November downloadable pack is Mindset! 🤗 Is it okay if I reference your talk in that?
Jenna, thank you so much! I'm glad you found the info helpful and super happy that it felt like we were just chatting. I would be honored if you reference my presentation in your November information. I love you are organized that far ahead...I need to take a lesson there!
You are so welcome Janice. Sometimes the changes we make are so subtle it's hard to believe they can help us shift, yet they are very effective. Stand tall Janice because you're amazing and you're teaching other people very important things!
Resistance shows up for me in so many ways. In the past I've used wine and shopping. Now it's wasting time on things that don't really matter and allowing myself to get too busy without creating proper boundaries.
Learning to question my thoughts is an ongoing process that ebbs and flows. I'm hoping someday it will only flow!
How have you found these things to play out in your life?
Donna I wish I’d found your experienced and thoughtful counsel many years ago. I’ve backed into many of the mindset “reworks” and changes in my life by sheer necessity based on pain, as I know you’ve read a little of in my newsletter. The “I am what I am” mindset is devastating for people. It is one of the key things about AA that I push back against. We are told we are alcoholic for life...we just are and always will be. For me, I’ve found in recovery that changing my mindset allows me to be open-hearted and open-minded about living in a different way. By examining my core relationship to people, places, and things, I can be changed and recovered. Thank you for allowing those of us who couldn’t attend your initial talk to listen in later. You are a wealth of positive energy and I am so grateful to know you. 🙏❤️
From the bottom of my heart, Dee thank you for those kind words!
I am not a part of the AA community, although I hold it in the highest esteem. I can see how the 'lifetime sentence' mindset of alcoholism could be a deterrent for some folks. I've never considered the "I am what I am" mindset in any context so I appreciate you bringing that to my attention because I believe it to be a pretty damaging sentiment. We are all capable of change which is why it seems to be my life mission to be a carrier of hope that it's possible!
As always thank you for taking the time to tune in and share in the comments. I love to hear from you.
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Thank you Donna for this informative talk. I like that you use personal examples for us to relate to. I hope we aren’t your irritating Neighbors. Lol. ♥️♥️♥️
Oh Jeannine I thought of you guys as soon as I said that! I wasn’t referring to myself because I have NO irritating neighbours, especially you two💕 We live in the best neighbourhood ever.
Thank you for talking the time to comment about the presentation, I’m so glad you found it helpful.
I completely understand the challenges that may seem over our heads at times. It's a journey filled with continuous learning and growth. Your presentation, however, shows that you're not only navigating these waters well but also making them easier for others.
Winston thank you so much for this. Some days I feel like I'm dog-paddling in the waters rather than navigating them. On those days I try to invoke self-compassion and allowing. I can't say I always pull it off but I am happy I now have the awareness to do it.
I appreciate you taking the to tune in and then comment, it means a lot to me.
I just finished watching your recording Donna.
It was great!
There was so much useful info in there, but what I liked most of all was that you grounded it in your own experience of getting sober from alcohol.
I think that is such a good thing to have done as it not only shows that your methods work, but it also helps us relate you to in that we all have things we have struggled to overcome.
I love the point you made about how we can shift our mindset through things we do with our bodies - as this is such a wonderful way to reinforce how mind and body are intrinsically connected. And it also gives us concrete ways to approach changing our mindset.
I am a big fan of Andrew Huberman and so for a while now I’ve been doing the physiological sigh and having cold showers and I’ve been amazed by the difference it can have.
I also really liked the bit about how we are in control of the words we use (those little spells) and the content we consume.
That is such an important point that I think is easy to forget.
And — “Do not underestimate the consequences of doing nothing” — I love it! I wrote that down and put it on my wall. Such a powerful final point.
Thank you, Donna, this was great.
I'm so glad you found it helpful Michael! Thank you for taking the time to leave such a detailed comment, perhaps it will inspire other folks to take a listen❤
Donna! This was SO good! I attended the live one and found myself taking copious notes. I learned a ton and your delivery was really wonderful. I felt like I was learning from an old friend. ♥️ Thank you so much for making this free and available to everyone! And talk about synchronicity...the theme for my November downloadable pack is Mindset! 🤗 Is it okay if I reference your talk in that?
Jenna, thank you so much! I'm glad you found the info helpful and super happy that it felt like we were just chatting. I would be honored if you reference my presentation in your November information. I love you are organized that far ahead...I need to take a lesson there!
Hi Donna, What great reminders - I will definitely be trying some of those ideas - my personal space for one. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome Janice. Sometimes the changes we make are so subtle it's hard to believe they can help us shift, yet they are very effective. Stand tall Janice because you're amazing and you're teaching other people very important things!
Excellent presentation Donna. Very informative
Thanks so much for tuning in Buddy!
Resistance shows up for me in so many ways. In the past I've used wine and shopping. Now it's wasting time on things that don't really matter and allowing myself to get too busy without creating proper boundaries.
Learning to question my thoughts is an ongoing process that ebbs and flows. I'm hoping someday it will only flow!
How have you found these things to play out in your life?